My mother once told me that when we were born, my parents, as anyone in the youthful state of mind in any era, thought that by the time we, their kids, grow up, things would have drastically changed in the Indian society . That people will educate their girls more and more and the morbid practice of dowry will die a very public death .
Boy were they wrong!
When I was studying in college I was very idealistic. Girls and boys are equal (that's what I had seen growing up in my parent's house ) . Cast and creed distinction doesnt exist anymore. Blah blah.
Boy was I stupid! To have believed that anything could really change in india.
Things just take on a different color without losing their structural stink.
In the earlier version of time, people did notspend any money educating their girls to save up money for their dowry, a prerequisite for their marriage, the ultimate goal of a girl's life, as I' ve mentioned in my previous posts. The groom' s family inturn expected docile submissive ready to be abused girls that will bring dowry for them.
Turn to the latesht version of time as it stands still on bharat bhumi, the time of AAP, the time that has witnessed Kiran Bedi in action, the time of Sunny Leone coming to work in India, the time of a Sunita Williams and a Kalpana Chawla, the time of a Shobbha Dey talking about lives of stars, the time when Sussane leaves Hrithik Roshan, the time of boasting about honour killings , be it Manoj and Bubbly or be it Aarushi Talwar.
Mind you these are not tales of an average Indian. These re exceptional people.
In this age and time a' normal' groom's family expects a girl who is well educated, who will go out and earn to supplement household's income, who before going to work will slog at household chores, who still would not be respected, who will get a lot of dowry for them notonly at the time of wedding mind you, no no no, that my dear friends is a life long phenomenon .
No matter how well educated on yhe surface the in laws invariably ecpect the' bahu' to get gifts and suits for them every time she goes to her parents house (for which ofcourse she will be riduculed and taunted coz even if the in laws dress like maids on their own time but when the bahu gets them something it should be laced with gold and stuff . But ofcourse )
Oh and those of you still enchanted with the Indian culture, the bride' s parents are supposed to give gold ornaments to all inlaws ( including mom in lsw, dad in law, bro in law, ofcoz the groom himself, married sis in law along with her inlaws and her husvand and kid ) .all that the girl gets them is forgotten in a week or two and then they want more . If the bahu happens to give birth to a child, her parents are again supposed to handout gold to in laws and the wretched sis in law . The main issue is not healthy birthing process, no no, the issue is what she will get from her parents for her in laws.
All in the name of tradition
Enchanted?
P.S. those of you who do not understand the fascination with the fifty shades triology, let me tell u a lil secret . An average indian woman's life is all about being submissive and slogging minus the complementary orgasms. God bless E L James .
Boy were they wrong!
When I was studying in college I was very idealistic. Girls and boys are equal (that's what I had seen growing up in my parent's house ) . Cast and creed distinction doesnt exist anymore. Blah blah.
Boy was I stupid! To have believed that anything could really change in india.
Things just take on a different color without losing their structural stink.
In the earlier version of time, people did notspend any money educating their girls to save up money for their dowry, a prerequisite for their marriage, the ultimate goal of a girl's life, as I' ve mentioned in my previous posts. The groom' s family inturn expected docile submissive ready to be abused girls that will bring dowry for them.
Turn to the latesht version of time as it stands still on bharat bhumi, the time of AAP, the time that has witnessed Kiran Bedi in action, the time of Sunny Leone coming to work in India, the time of a Sunita Williams and a Kalpana Chawla, the time of a Shobbha Dey talking about lives of stars, the time when Sussane leaves Hrithik Roshan, the time of boasting about honour killings , be it Manoj and Bubbly or be it Aarushi Talwar.
Mind you these are not tales of an average Indian. These re exceptional people.
In this age and time a' normal' groom's family expects a girl who is well educated, who will go out and earn to supplement household's income, who before going to work will slog at household chores, who still would not be respected, who will get a lot of dowry for them notonly at the time of wedding mind you, no no no, that my dear friends is a life long phenomenon .
No matter how well educated on yhe surface the in laws invariably ecpect the' bahu' to get gifts and suits for them every time she goes to her parents house (for which ofcourse she will be riduculed and taunted coz even if the in laws dress like maids on their own time but when the bahu gets them something it should be laced with gold and stuff . But ofcourse )
Oh and those of you still enchanted with the Indian culture, the bride' s parents are supposed to give gold ornaments to all inlaws ( including mom in lsw, dad in law, bro in law, ofcoz the groom himself, married sis in law along with her inlaws and her husvand and kid ) .all that the girl gets them is forgotten in a week or two and then they want more . If the bahu happens to give birth to a child, her parents are again supposed to handout gold to in laws and the wretched sis in law . The main issue is not healthy birthing process, no no, the issue is what she will get from her parents for her in laws.
All in the name of tradition
Enchanted?
P.S. those of you who do not understand the fascination with the fifty shades triology, let me tell u a lil secret . An average indian woman's life is all about being submissive and slogging minus the complementary orgasms. God bless E L James .
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