An ocean too deep!

There are two approaches . moderation and extremism.

i know that moderation might help one to keep one's sanity.

But I've never really understood it.

Me I'm an extremist . I understand passion. 

I also understand that it can destroy you beyond any hopes of repair. It might lead to unsurpassable achievements. BUT it can destroy you.

So I heard someone's story a few days ago . And it got me thinking. ( haha! very carrie bradshaw i know but no relevance whatsoever!)

There is this person. Got a degree in engineering from a well  reputed college. (In India that usually means you're pretty smart. or that your father has a lot of vella sitting wealth. the latter not being the case here! )

Post his graduation instead of following the hackneyed path of taking up campus placement in a private corporation ....this person decides to prepare for UPSC.It takes a toll on the entire family when a kid from a middle class family decides to take up civil services exam because usually the finances are finite and there is expectation for the kid to start earning . so the preparation commences there is no dearth of dedication. cant make it in the first year. once you've delved into the world of preparing for civil services ..its difficult to quit specially if you really have the potential to do it. but these exams , they dont just require aptitude....it is a very long process and a lot goes into it. so another year and another . and then ther;s light to spur you on . As the prelim exam has been cracked in the 3rd attempt. but couldnt make it through the mains...and similar results the next year. meanwhile this person was also taking up state civil exams. and was selected . (BRAVO! you would think han?) well our mahaan desh cancelled that entire list of selected candidates. by the time he got a government job far below his capabilities (not that any job is inferior but that is what your mindset becomes having gone through all this grind! ) , the once fresh faced engineering graduate is 32 and not yet married.

i have not yet mentioned the frustration that seeing your peers rise on the corporate ladder breeds in you. 

having dealt with all this and gaining lifelong supply of depression and frustration.....

all this and i was thinking...

is it better to settle in a comfort zone where you are sure that things will work out or should one take the plunge into deeper oceans?