We all have pasts. Translation. We all have baggage. Baggage that we inadvertently end up transferring to our kids .
My question is how does one get it right?
We have (but ofcourse! ) been on this planet longer than our kids and we have made mistakes along the way (personally and professionally) and sometimes ,not necessarily all the time, but sometimes we have learnt from them. Now all we want to do is impart some of this oft hard acquired wisdom to them , the kids that is. But most of us end up clogging their thought process with our psychological hurdles.
And yet! how can we not!
When we see ou kid faced with a dilemma similar to one we have faced in the past, all our protective instincts are stimulated and we jump into the "life coach " mode. We mean well. But we usually fail to realise when we have crossed the line and burdened them with burgeoning expectations of our dreams instead of helping them discover and fulfill theirs.
Every kid has a potential. Not all of them are born to be greats . Some might just get it right in mediocrity. But there is no shame in that. Mediocrity is a talent in itself that few can master . Whatever may be the case nothing positive comes out of pushing them in an alien direction.
Another scenario is when parents push their kids into conventional scenarios . Kids who can probably be greats with a little bohemian touch. Or the failure to understand their kid's mental frequency. Afterall no one can ever truly "get" every one else in the world. The same applies to parents and their kids despite their genetic link.
I have no answer for this conundrum. All that I can say is take heart!
We were born human and we kind of remain that way til the very end. the best that we can do is befreind our kids. And be stern sometimes. And be a life coach sometimes. And be their therapist at times. And provide them structure and stabilty. And be their tutor sometimes. blahblahblah
PHEW! parenting is an impossible job !
Got any answers? enlighten me as well. And I say please!
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